When you were a kid, or maybe a bit older, perhaps a teenager or young adult, we are willing to bet that you had fantasies, hopes, and dreams of the man or woman you would fall in love with. For some of us, these were rather elaborate and far fetched fantasies to start, perhaps a famous movie star or singer. However, as time passed, your tastes and expectations likely matured, and while you stopped expecting a swimsuit model/brain surgeon to knock on your door with a flat tire, you likely gathered a fairly sound list of qualities and attributes that you look for in a partner.
Knowing as we do that everybody is different, it only stands to reason that different people would find themselves attracted to different things. And while everyone has their preference, there are some pretty standard qualities that most of us would agree upon that make someone an ideal partner. A partner should be mature in their approach to things and open minded. They should be honest and demonstrate integrity and sound judgment. They should be respectful and independent, as well as empathetic and affectionate. They should have a sense of humor and yet, still be able to tackle the serious side of life, most importantly, with you by their side.
However, what most of us would all agree upon is that a person who demonstrates an excessive interest or admiration in themselves, and little else, wouldn’t make a very good partner. What we just described is the definition of a narcissist and according to the largest survey of its kind conducted by the U.S. National Institute of Health, these men and women makeup 6.2 percent of the population, which means you have likely come across one, or might even find yourself in a relationship with one and not even know it. Thankfully, we are here to change that as we reveal the most glaring signs you’re in love with a narcissist.
The term ‘self-righteous’ is one that gets thrown around a lot, and the name can be a little misleading. For while the name denotes that it is a person who finds their righteousness from within, in reality, they are aren’t getting it from themselves, rather, in true narcissist fashion, they are taking it from you.
If you find yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, you may notice that your partner is constantly aware of what others are doing and using this information as a means to measure themselves, or more accurately, as a means to know how to act. A narcissist will often act as if they can do no wrong and that they have the superior moral compass, one in which they truly believe everyone would be better off if they followed as well. You can often find many of these individuals heavily involved with a charity or religious organizations.