Have you ever mistake? We have, in fact, we are pretty sure we made at least a dozen before the coffee was ready. However, these are minor, and they happen, to EVERYONE. So what's the big deal? There isn’t, or rather, there shouldn't be. Because if you are an emotionally intelligent person then you know to distance yourself from your mistakes. We are not trying to say that mistakes are a bad thing, in fact, they are great. Mistakes are a way for us to learn hands-on and to learn what not to do. And it is often the remembering of these past mistakes that help guide us in all our future endeavors. The problem is that it can be an incredibly fine line between remembering your mistakes and dwelling on them; which is exactly what emotionally unintelligent people do.
When a person dwells on their mistakes it causes them to be in a state of anxiety, and this can often make it hard for them to react and perform, as they are constantly holding on to the times when it didn’t work or didn’t go according to plan. By distancing yourself from your mistakes, but still keeping close by for easy reference, you allow your past to be bedrock, rather than something to trip over.