This could be a very touchy subject for some, and certainly one worth debating considering the result is glowing, healthy children; but there has been a recent study completed that suggests joint custody agreements can be good for your kids! Splitting up your family is never intended and often a long transition period for all involved. Before jumping into the full custody legal blood bath, consider what your children’s needs may be, and what is essentially ideal for them in the end.
The first step in considering custodial rights should be who is available to handle the morning school schedules and who is better suited to conduct the after school activity and homework drill with the little ones. Some families work well with the weekday to weekend shifts, but that isn’t always ideal either as it becomes so habit forming that often one parent ends up with the bad shift. What can be done to split the parenting duties so that it is fair for mom and dad? Try taking out joint custody scheduling for a test drive. This may equate three days week with mom and four days with dad or something to that nature so that neither parent gets burned out, and the child gets the best of both worlds if possible.
Not alarmingly; a recent study posted in Youth Health Magazine describes results of data where children with married parents are less likely to suffer from headaches, sleeping disorders, and eating disorders. Not shocking right? And of course following suit the study shows that those that reside with one parent and not two tend to have more symptoms that are emotionally driven.
The study represents 22% of kids residing with one parent suffered from sleeping issues, while only 14% had the same insomnia troubles while living under a joint custody agreement. In previous years we were always taught that kids that had to go back and forth between two parents would have difficulty balancing two lives, two houses, two sets of rules and so on. Such is no longer the case as the studies conclude. Imagine being a child of any age and having to go from living with both of your parents to living with one of them full time, and only seeing the other for small fractions of time. It’s a struggle that can severely alter their childhood and frame their opinions of how parenthood should be when they get older. Always try to be as accommodating to the child involved as possible, even if this means being cordial to your ex when you least desire to. Many schools have therapists on tap to utilize at your disposal should you think that your children could benefit from additional therapy or someone else in a neutral spot to voice their concerns with.